I’m going to be in Russia for Halloween. Seriously. One of my good friends asked me if I wanted to join him for a few days, tickets and hotel paid, and I said ‘YES!’
What does this have to do with Halloween? Well, actually, everything. I don’t like to pretend to be a witch or a ghost when I can be a bottom or a sub. I don’t like to dress up in cheap costumes, when I can indulge in my favorite fetishes. Most of all, hell, why wouldn’t I go to Russia, all expenses paid!
Peal away a layer of politics, and it’s a phenomenal country and with its history and many cultures. We’ll be in St. Petersburg. Just imagine, all the art, the history, the setting. The perfect place to make an normal outing that much more exciting.
Russia is sexy. It’s forbidden, dangerous, exciting, and men rule. My place. Being a reasonably attractive youngish woman is a license to be submissive in private and in public. Nobody will blink an eye.
It has it’s ugly side. The sex industry is still going strong and not pretty. Men with money usually have models around them like arm-candy. Being ignored, humiliated, or abused by your man is not going to cause any uproar. Don’t get me wrong. Russian woman are incredibly strong, and typically much more intelligent and courageous than their male counterparts. But it’s a chauvinistic society.
That happens to work for me. It’s not a statement about Russia, it’s a statement about who I am.
I like it when I don’t have to stand up for myself. If I want to give my partner permission to humiliate me in public and someone doesn’t like it, then get over it. It’s my humiliation, not yours. If I want to be a slut, a fuck-toy, because I chose to, then I have every right to be. If he wants to show me off as his slut in public, the way other woman might be embarrassed, then let him. As long as I don’t do any harm to others, it’s nobody else’s fucking business.
I have seen the website of the hotel — pretty fancy. Guess what scandalous things I’ll be doing there. Wearing nothing underneath my PVC coat when we go out? Or maybe just an underbust corset? When he asks me to take off my coat, I refuse. I’m the bratty type. I won’t do what he wants.
I’m a slut. Going out in public half naked. Taunting him to humiliate me; he may not even know what he’s doing. I’m turning from sub to bottom in a flash. All of a sudden, I call the shots, he is the top, but I’m in control. Back in our room, he finds out why, and I’ll have to pay the price.
If he wants to not just top me, but turn me into his sub, he has to make me. Oh, I love those power battles. I love to lose them after a good fight. And a good fight sometimes means getting away, to a place where rules are there to be broken. Where, for better or for worse, women can be submissive in public. Men can be dismissive, insulting, humiliating.
I may not want to live there, but for a few days, it’s heaving. That’s my Russian Halloween.
First, I’m from there, still have family and friends there, and traveled there back in June. Halloween was never a big deal in Russia, but maybe the times are a-changin’. Looking forward to reading an account of your trip. Have you been there before? I assume you will be well taken care of by your friend, but feel free to PM me if you have any questions. Also, New Year’s is by far the most fun time there, if you can handle a bit of a chill. Though maybe you can get away with some fetishwear and overtly kinky behavior easier on Halloween.
And you are right, open humiliation, within the limits of accepted decency, it very likely to get shrugged at there, because of the peculiar mix of Russian patriarchy and feminism. Definitely in high-end hotels you can get away with basically anything that does not complicate the establishment’s relationship with the powers that be. So, avoid political statements, and you should have a blast!
If you get to the Peterhof Palace, maybe you can pretend to be Delilah in front of the Samson fountain 🙂
Have fun!
Always learn something new! Yes, I’ve been to Russia before, although I’m far from an expert on Russia. I actually know much more from Russian’s who I have met in Germany and New York. The first time I was there, was in Moscow, and I was surprise how we could go out to pretty elegant restaurants with me in a latex dress, and nobody looked twice (well, maybe some did). It’s my first time in St. Petersburg, which from all I know puts Moscow to shame in terms of the beauty of the city. I haven’t been there over New Years. I guess it’s mostly because my friend goes there for work and nobody works over the holidays. I’m going to be near St. Isaac’s Cathedral in St. Petersburg, but I’ll take up your suggestion about the Samson fountain! I’ll DM if I need help. P.S. Since I still have my German Passport, it’s now super easy to get a Visa to St. Petersburg.
Great corset pic!
I So have Russia- especially St. Petersburg on my list! Enjoy all your naughty fun while there!
Thanks, I’ll be extra naughty just for you ?
How exciting, look forward to hearing about your sexy fun times because who wouldn’t take up that offer!
It’ll be a few days to remember, I’m sure?
How exciting! I hope you’ll have a wonderful time. Fantastic picture, too! Wow. I’m sure you’ll impress your friend, and scandalise the posh hotel!
Thanks! Scandal is a must!?
That sounds exciting! I hope it will be exactly the way you envision it, maybe even better. Have fun!
Thanks! I’m super excited! And will get to see my family in Germany again. ?
A country is always more than the politics we hear about most, and I can only imagine how vast and amazing the history of Russia really is. And also, of course you go when it’s paid for! I certainly would.
That there’s the kinky aspect is the perfect cherry on top. 🙂
? flying out tomorrow evening. The kinky part of my suitcase is already put together…posts will follow!
You have described some extremely hot things here – it sounds like your Russian Halloween is going to be brilliant.
Oh, brilliant it was, unfortunately in all sorts of directions that weren’t all intentional. Amazing in any case, and if it hadn’t been below freezing even kinkier. ?
Just wanted to say that I *really* loved this piece. It’s complex, unafraid, and wonderfully dark. Can’t wait to read about your adventures in Russia.
Back from 5 days of social media break and a great time in St. Petersburg. So much happened, it’ll take me some time to digest, but no worries, writing about it is my emotional outlet.
Wow, that sounds really amazing! I’d love to go to Russia and your plans sound really hot.
I love how you show a balanced view of Russia in this post – how problematic it still can be, but also how that works for you.
P.S. I love the underbust corset, so hot!
Thanks, Isabelle! I’ve left Russia again and it was every bit as exciting as I had hoped. Not always in the direction that I wanted it to go, but for a while, I was in kink heaven!