Heavy Spanking Session #NSFW and +18

@RichardBacula asked a very good question the other day. How long does it take for bruises to appear from heavy-duty spanking? I promised to write up something going into a bit of detail. The reason I feel somewhat competent to give details on this way of impact play, and we’re talking old-fashioned spanking with the bare hand only, is not just years of experience as a sub, but also a recent double session at the Torture Garden Party in London (That event will be a separate blog entry).

I do not claim that the way I like it is the only way to do it, but it works for me. I’ll try and describe it from the sub and the Dom perspective (which can be a man or a woman, but by the flip of a coin, I picked a male example). Mine first 🙂

First of all, relax, get comfortable, it helps to have something to hold onto. And be prepared to spend some time focusing on nothing but the session. A few words about my physiology. I have a bit of additional weight on my bottom, work out regularly, don’t take any medication that would work as a blood-thinner (that makes bruising much more likely). That being said, I am also competitive and won’t end a session until I absolutely have to.

I prefer spankings with a slow warm-up, rather than cold sessions where the hard spanking starts immediately. The warm up feels nice. The Dom slaps my bottom with the open palm of his hand without causing any serious pain. I can feel him working about the area from just below the pelvic bone around the sides of my butt cheeks, down to where my bottom transitions to my thighs. Sometimes the back of my thighs get some of the action as well.

This goes on for some time and allows blood to flow to the area. I like to reach back and feel for myself how my bottom is getting warmer. Just a word of advice, the color will change fairly rapidly with the blood flowing in, closer to the skin’s surface. That is just a natural response, it will not lead to any lasting bruises. It can take some time before my bottom is really warm. At that point, although it feels like serious spanking already, the session is just beginning.

Now comes the part where it’s very useful to have something to hold onto. I also like it when the Dom uses his body to pin my down. My favorite position is for him to lay next to me, his body holding my shoulders down and my hands together. No ropes. His leg wrapped over mine to expose only my bottom . The reason I like it is that I will eventually get to the point where I don’t want to end the session, but my body wants to ‘escape’. By being pinned down, rather than tied-up, the Dom has a much better sense of how hard I struggle, where continued blows begin to be painful, and where there is less of an impact.

So, after the warm up, I like to have a short break. No more than a minute, to get myself mentally ready. After that, I know that I can not physically avoid the spanking. Only calling off the session will end it, or when the Dom is satisfied with his work. Both happen. I don’t like gags or anything that limits my ability to express myself during these sessions.

It starts again slow with some light slapping around my bottom, but quickly accelerates. The transition from warm-up to impact is when the Dom begins to hit the same area over and over. The first two or three strikes are increasingly painful and after the fourth or fifth, I will inevitably try and avoid having him hit the same area again. If I try to ‘wiggle’ my way out, that’s when his body weight and leg pin me down to the point where I cannot move.

This is where the sessions begin to be exhausting. It’s like a bull fight. He gets me to the right position and only continues when he knows that he can hit exactly the spot he intends to hit. No messy mis-hits. This also means that I know mentally there is no escaping and what happens next.

Sometimes the Dom focuses on a single spot, sometimes on a pattern of spots. By now it feels as if I already have huge bruises, but in reality, that’s not the case. Instead, by hitting the same spot over and over, the penetration goes deeper under the skin. When I begin to feel my muscles hurting, rather than just my skin (or the pesty fatty areas), that is when I know there will be bruises coming.

Now the Dom can control effectively what kind of bruise he wants. The tissue damage, which really is what makes the bruise, is now happening well below the skin surface. That’s, by the way, another reason why bony areas are off limits for any form of spanking of impact play (the main reason being damage to the bones or nerves themselves). How much of a bruise this will make is a matter of experience. How long it takes for the bruise to develop is a matter of where the tissue damage occurs. How long it lasts is to some extent a question of physiology, and the severity of the tissue damage.

Now the same from his perspective. (We talk about it afterwards and talk about different types of spanking, just to get a better feel for what sort of spanking felt good and what didn’t).

For the warm up, his prefered method is a swiping motion where the wrist is very loose and almost like a whip slaps against my skin. He typically slaps in a whip-like motion from the bottom upwards, or the sides toward the middle. Imagine my asshole as the center, then all the blows have a swiping motion in the direction of the center.

What is really important is the pace and whip-like action. Sometimes you see in cheap porn productions how the Dom uses his hand as if it was a firmly attached extension of the arm, more like a paddle than a whip. It causes the skin to turn red quickly, but in a superficial way, just below the skin’s surface. By taking time and working around the sub’s bottom with a lose hand, there is much more time for the blood to enter the area, for the muscles to relax, and for the sub to get used to the session.

The whipping action also gives the Dom much more control over the severity of each blow At this point, it’s much more about preparing for the real spanking than seeing an immediate effect. This is also not an entirely painless experience for the Dom. Slapping a bottom some 200 times with the palm cases a similar rush of blood toward the Dom’s hand. It can also be a bit exhausting, so patience is a virtue.

Before the real session starts, my Dom let me see what my bottom looks like. At this point it’s nice and red, and there tend to be some slight red marks, no larger than a penny, that will appear and go away in 24 hours. If we stopped here, nothing further would happen and a day later my bottom would be as new.

Then the real session starts. He pins me down. Now his motion changes. Where during the warm up, it was sideways blows that skimmed over the surface of the skin to varying degrees, these blows are now coming straight down. That means the entire force of the blow goes straight onto the skin, no energy is wasted. Like a karate kick, the blows also go through the skin. It’s like imagining he wanted to hit not the surface area, but right through it by several inches. This results in a very flat impact that is aimed at the muscles below the surface, rather than the skin.

The muscles don’t feel the pain, but the skin does. This is where endurance and pain tolerance come in. These blows, particularly when they hit the same spot over and over again, are MUCH more painful than the warm-up. The beauty of having the Dom next to me and pinning me down is that he can feel how my body is resisting each blow. He can use his muscles to keep me from moving and I can struggle as much as I want without a chance of getting away. It’s actually a very intimate experience.

For me, about ten hard blows on the same spot are enough to cause bruises. By the way, once the blows come straight down and are aimed to go through the skin into the muscle, the whipping action disappears and it’s more like a paddle hitting the bottom.

After the session, the skin is red, but, at least in my case, there is no immediate bruising. A few hours later, dark, round bruises begin to appear. This is when the aftercare is important. There is always the risk that the blood (which is the bruise), does not dissipate and over time forms hard clots. That’s not good. As much as it may hurt, my aftercare always includes gentle massages of my bottom every few hours. One reason why I don’t do heavy impact sessions just before going to sleep.

In each spot that was targeted, about a palm-sized bruise will be very visible the next morning. Say 8 to 12 hours after the session. By then, some of the small red spots from the warm-up are still around, but they will disappear during the course of the day. Then it takes an evolution from a few days to a couple of weeks where the bruise first gets larger and remains purpleish.

The lighter areas begin to turn yellow first and disappear after three to five days. The core of the bruise takes a bit longer. In my case it can be a week before it begins to turn colors and three weeks before it’s mostly gone.

It all depends really on the placement, duration, and depth of the impact that the spanking achieves. How red the bottom is has little to do with the bruises that follow. The skin impact is painful and many Doms stop when they think that it’s too painful for the sub. But the bruises are almost entirely unrelated to the redness of the skin. Compare it with running into the corner of a desk with your thigh. Really targeted deep impact, no surface redness at all (well, almost none), but the next day you have a nice big bruise.

I enjoy spanking sessions, but I do heavy sessions no more than every couple of months.

Hope this is helpful, and as I said at the beginning, every person is different, so paying attention and good communication between the sub and the Dom are key.

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